When working with clients I am able to be a mirror reflecting back to them what they are saying out loud. Chances are if I hear someone saying something negative or limiting out loud, I can imagine the self-talk matches and creates an imprint that shapes and forms the client’s reality.
If you haven’t been mindful about your focus, the first step is to become conscious of your thoughts for a day. Listen to what you are saying to yourself when you look in the mirror, after your interactions with people, when you wake up, and before bed. Are you present or are you thinking about the what-if’s, the past, or criticisms and judgments against yourself and/or others.
Practice being mindful, being present, and being kind to yourself and others. I use techniques and tools each day to keep my focus sharp and laser focused. Remember, you are human and sometimes there are thoughts and circumstances that occur that require more patience and self-control. The key is to not go with the destructive thoughts. Instead observe them as if they are just like moving clouds in the sky and let them pass. Observe yourself and become aware rather than going about life reacting to things. Different things have different meaning to people based on life events and circumstances so have compassion with yourself and others and come from a place of understanding next time you feel overwhelmed with a strong emotion.
Some examples of things you can do to keep your focus and mindset healthy are:
- Affirmations
- Meditation
- Prayer
- Gratitude Lists
- Vision Boards
- Visualization
- Counseling
- Mentorship
- Conscious Breathing
- Books
- Audiobooks
- Podcasts
- Circle of Influence (keeping positive people around)
- Journaling
- Art/Drawing
- Mindfulness Exercises
- Pay attention to the music you’re listening to? What are the messages your subconscious is absorbing?
- Avoid Gossip